‘Our social media accounts are our private accounts’: Obsessive coworker demands all colleagues accept her Facebook friend requests, then cyberstalks them to the point of being blocked

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Lana DeGaetano • "Show me to me please."
Aug 19, 2025 9:00 AM EDT

Social media has made it exceptionally easy to find everyone you know in real life—this includes those pesky coworkers who keep asking you to hang out off the clock. The employee in this next story decides not to mix business and pleasure, much to their obsessive coworker's detriment. At the end of the day, work is work, and the employee dodges a major obstacle when they realize their coworker is chronically online.

The digital age can be very unforgiving, especially if you want to be a private person online. That phrase is, unfortunately, very oxymoronic because nothing is private once you plaster your face on the internet, even if you decide to have a private account. Someone knows someone else who follows you, then your biggest enemy has all eyes on whatever you do in your daily life.

Befriending coworkers is something to think about very carefully before going through with it. Those silly excuses you used to have the day off? Down the drain—your coworkers know you went to the beach instead of that dentist appointment. Forget about privacy in the workplace—they know how you get after hours at the dive bar down the street. Take this next story as a cautionary tale. Scroll below to read the full story.

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  • "Meeting about not accepting Facebook Request"

    I read one the other about this and reminded me of a coworker. This was about 12ish years ago and honestly still ongoing. I work
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  • for a small company, going on 22 years, and worked my way up the small ladder we have. Been on the Admin side for about 20 of these years. Most of us have
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  • been with this company for quite a long time so are friendly but this one coworker from the moment she got hired kinda rubbed me the wrong way. Some
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  • of the things she would say are things you don't share at the job and would stick her nose she had no business being in. We
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  • nicknamed her Nosy Rosy and the staff called her Sir Prints A Lot, since she loved looking for mistakes on people she had a
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  • grudge on to get them in trouble. She is one of those that has a miserable life so wanted others miserable. The stories I have are
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  • endless on this one. One time I got a text from an unknown number that turned out to be her and I knew I never gave her my number, turns out she would go
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  • into the employee page we used as contacts and would pull everyone's numbers for her mobile. I told her to lose my number and do not pull that
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  • again. After that, I was friendly but I keep my distance. What really drew the line for me, she started friend requesting everyone the moment they where
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  • hired on Facebook and sent me one also. I ignored it at first but she kept poking so I eventually blocked her all together because
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  • my other coworkers who did give in got stalked, we think she had alerts on everyone because they would post and seconds later she
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  • would respond to every single thing, it was creepy. They eventually unfriended. She noticed right away (I am talking hours and would send another
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  • request) that we blocked or unfriended and went crying to the owner about it. Seriously, tears running down her face, had
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  • a panic attack because we didn't want to be her friend on social media. Owner then talks to me and my team that we should be
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  • her friend, had to explain that our social media accounts are our private accounts that have nothing to do with the job and we
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  • don't have to be her friend, end of conversation. Boss was you are correct. End of that. She still works there, and I still have her
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  • blocked on every platform I am on. She still makes a point to mention she can't find me when others on her team are friends on there. I just don't do messy, and she thrives on it.
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  • chasingkaty I've had to very much accept that colleagues are not friends and as much as we may enjoy each others company, it's in my own best interest to keep my private and work lives separate. Been burned too many times.
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  • Leather-Newt-3910 I've been at my current job for 8 1/2 years and I have blocked all of my coworkers. and everyone in management on Facebook and Instagram. Don't need them knowing anymore about me than I tell them.
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  • Hellokitty110174 How/why is she still employed there???
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  • CoffeeJ kie9903 She plays to the bosses ego and kisses their
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